The axle is a torsion bar design and is not built to take the load of the trailer on a jack. The jack should be placed under the frame as close to an axle as possible. The frame will also distort if the jack is placed at a distance from the axle.
I don't think an exhaust mod will do anything for your Sequoia. To get any real improvement, I believe you need long tube headers, and an X or H pipe to true duals. Even then, the improvement in power will be minimal, and could even be less. Exhaust mods are mostly for sound and looks.
Intake mods CAN give you a slight benefit. If you don't have a true cold air intake, then adding one of those can give you a bit of power. But make sure anything you put in takes the air from outside and not from the inside of the engine compartment.
Your brakes are probably OK. If you can lock the wheels up, then you really can't increase braking more than that.
Your tires, though, could be upgraded to Load Range D or E. You'll be putting quite a bit of extra weight on them from the tongue of your trailer and the Weight Distribution Hitch (WDH) that you absolutely should be using.
If your tow vehicle does not have an OEM tow package, you would benefit greatly from an auxiliary transmission cooler. You'll also need an electric brake controller in the tow vehicle. It will need to be wired with a 7-blade electrical connection to the trailer.
If I'm confusing you with any of this, please ask me to explain further.
- Jack